February2
One of my best friend’s husband’s has been in and out of the ER for the past two days. What we all thought started out as a bad reaction to drinking water out of a moldy sports bottle on Monday turned into an ambulance ride on Friday morning.
Two of our friends took turns watching her children. By the time I found out about all this, in addition to debilitating fever, inability to eat or drink and uncontrollable shakes, they found this oxygen levels were very low. And that whenever they took him off the oxygen, his levels would drop into the low 80s immediately. After I finally got my car back from the dealership, I drove up to the hospital to give Megan some support.
After a day of x-rays, a CAT scan, blood and urine tests, that were inconclusive. So, they SENT HIM HOME – with oxygen tanks and medication – for his wife, with a preschool and infant daughter at home, to take care of. “Call your doctor in the morning.”
WTF?! Seriously?!
I just missed them leaving the hospital, so I drove to her house and arrived shortly after she had settled her husband in bed – WITH OXYGEN. We all simmered with the incredulity of the hospital sending him home. I offered to pick up her favorite comfort food for dinner, which was the least I could do. Then I told her I was on call for her, any time of night, if she needed me.
The boys were at their grandparents, spending the night with their cousin Joshua, and Doug and I had planned a date night. Instead of the dinner and movie, we ended up just going out to dinner at The Blue Star. Much wine, food and conversation. It was really nice. Until I got too tired to stay out any longer. So we went home, watched tv and turned in early.
I slept well, but just before I woke up, I had a dream that I woke up and found 7 missed calls from Megan on my cell phone. When I called back, I was berated by a man (her stepfather?) for being so irresponsible. I felt TERRIBLE. Then, I really did wake up briefly, checked my phone, and there were no missed calls. I went back to sleep.
At 8:35 AM, I did awake to Megan’s call. Kurt had a 103 fever, still wouldn’t eat and was still on the oxygen. She had to go back to the ER! Doug offered to pick up the boys from his parents’ house, so I got dressed and headed over to watch the girls.
When I got there, she was understandably shaken and upset.
“Now the possible diagnosis is meningitis, and that meant a spinal tap, and OMG, it could be contagious, and BTW, Anna has had a fever, and what if she has it, and what if anyone who watches the children gets it, and y’all have children, and they could all die because of this… I don’t know what to do.”
We’ve all been on that thought train, haven’t we?
After I assured her that we didn’t need to go there yet, I reminded her what she needed to do. Just take her husband to the hospital, while I watched the girls.
We distracted Anna and Silvia with my pictures with the Little Einsteins, while Megan got things together for Kurt to go. And I saw Kurt for the first time in a while, and while he looked exhausted – kind of like after an all night bender – he still looked like Kurt. So I thought that was promising.
I had a great morning with the girls. Anna was just so super sweet and helpful, and Silvia was just oh-so-adorable. Silvia napped for 2 1/2 hours! Anna went on the potty. We played a little bit outside with snow.
And then Candy brought us lunch and took over for the next shift. Megan called to say that they still hadn’t seen a dr yet (it was after 12 noon!), but Kurt had more x-rays and tests, was resting and she would likely come home to see the girls and recharge and then go back.
I headed home, and just enjoyed my guys. Zander and I played catch, then we played 2 rounds of Candy Land. When Doug got up from a nap, we had a giant Scott family hug. It was all very good.
I checked in with Candy and found out that they finally got a diagnosis – pneumonia! So Kurt was going to spend the night for observation, and Megan was going to go home in the evening to be with her mom and children.
I can’t help but be frustrated with the hospital and doctors for how this all turned out. I can’t imagine how much more frustrating this is for Meg.
But there it is – one more reminder to be thankful for things like health and love and good friends.