On the whole, I think I’m fairly strict when it comes to parenting, and that’s where I want to be.

I just want to be more rationally strict, than shrill strict. I’m working on that.

I do find that if I plan the day, however loosely, and describe it to them at the start of the day, things are much easier to manage.

Consistency is definitely key. Things always get better for us when I “tighten the leash” which happens because things get out of control – as a result of me not being consistent and slacking off/checking out for a while. It’s a vicious cycle. We’re on a “tight leash” cycle right now, which means things are pretty good. I can’t seem to keep it up indefinitely, though.

Being consistent is hard work. Between work and running and climbing, I don’t have the energy to always be exhaustingly consistent.

This is where I get to choose my battles/priorities. My kids already accept the rules that I have been consistent with.

• Vegetables with lunch and dinner.
• They ask to be excused from the table when finished eating.  And they clear their plates and cups to the sink.
• Family Chores on Saturdays.
• Video games only on the weekends.
• Screen time can only happen (tv, computer, video games) after 2 PM.
• Screen time is EARNED, not a privilege.
• Screen time only happens if their toys are picked up and put away.
• Tantrums/disrespect result in loss of privilege or allowance (their choice).

If nothing else, I have these things.